Isn’t it strange how very often a person is judged on the job that they do, or profession they choose. It even categorizes what ‘class’ you belong to.Very often, even now,when participating in any sort of consumer study or market research, the question is always asked as to, either the occupation of the ‘head of house’ (at least it is not assumed now that will automatically be a male) or the income of the main breadwinner, in order to determine which socio-economic group or class to slot people into.
People can be so snobby and superior if they don’t consider your job to be worthwhile or, if it required little or no qualifications, they assume that perhaps you must be a cretin and therefore unworthy of their attention. Mr Grump used to clean toilets a couple of years ago before his current job as a driver. (I may have mentioned before, but he is a trained and qualified chef, but after many years of stress and shift work, decided he wanted to do something different). I am an Associate Nurse (not a Registered Nurse, I studied for 2 years not 3 as they do).
Anyway, the reason I mention it , is when we have met people and told them what we did for a living, we could see the disdain, and desire in them for a quick getaway to move on to someone else more interesting. (After all, we can’t be very clever if one of us cleans toilets and the other isn’t even a proper nurse)! Next time we got asked what we did for a living, we rather truthfully, but bluntly replied, “clean up other people’s shit”! If you are going to get a reaction, make it a good one!
I feel sorry for the stay-at-home-mums as well. Regardless of their skills, experience, knowledge and training, they have somehow, turned into an empty-headed, muzzy brained, frazzled mum, who does nothing all day but play with their kids and watch trash TV! Oh wouldn’t that be lovely if only it were true! What a bloody insult to be written off, as a non-entity who has nothing to talk about other than how well little Johnny is doing with his potty training, or how to treat cracked nipples when breastfeeding!
By the same token, people very often respect others with nice,trustworthy. middle class jobs, like doctors for example. (Ever heard of Dr Harold Shipman, one of Britain’s, if not the world’s, most prolific serial killers?) Oh yes, lovely man to have at a party. Just don’t introduce him to your wealthy elderly aunty, or you might find that she meets an untimely demise under his expert ministrations! (Yes I know he killed himself now,but you get the point)!
So many swindlers, con men and fraudsters have supposedly ‘good’ jobs or are in respectable professions, just as there have been some awful abusive, spiteful and cruel people in ‘caring’ roles.Look at the dishonest Politicians,and their fake expenses claims,not to mention the philandering that goes on(and ends up in the Sunday Tabloids), What about the fat cat bosses and their huge pay rises? It is not necessarily a safe assumption to base a person’s character on the nature of their work.
What do you think? Are you happy being judged on what you do, as opposed to who you are?
Very valid points! I have been a stay at home mother (to six!) for twenty five years and recently started freelance writing. I notice that people have a much higher regard for me now that I can write something interesting in the doctor’s forms and income tax filings. Hmmmm – – motherhood just didn’t command any respect. But it did command made beds! 😉 Great post.
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I just wanted to have a bit of a rant as I don’t think it is very fair that we get treated as if we have lost all intelligence once we become mum’s and decide to bring up our kids rather than go out to work. (you must have had your hands full with 6 kids) 🙂
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Interesting, isn’t it! My life is suddenly more interesting as well after mentioning that I am no longer “only” a stay at home mom (as I started mentioning that I am a writer, just to play with them a little bit)…
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Yes it is. You have suddenly gone up a few notches in their estimation now!
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Hehehe… if only they knew I was writing about them 😉
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It’s almost like people have a need to categorize on the superficial. I had a friend who gave all us English teachers a sign that said “I am silently correcting your grammar” as a joke, but it’s not funny. Lots of folks apologize for their speaking or writing when communicating with me, because of COURSE all English teachers do all day long is secretly look at grammar mistakes. Great post!
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Hello and thanks for your comments. God, you must get sick of being stereotyped, Mind you if people are going to stereotype you, then it could be worse, you could teach geography! 🙂
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Hopefully, the link above will take you to where I have Liebstered you. Do with the nomination whatever you wish!
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I became aware of how frequently we are judged on what we do after I left my job in June. “Unemployed” draws looks of either sympathy or disdain, forcing me into a lengthy explanation as to how and why I left my former career. Now when asked I say, “I’m trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up…” I have stopped asking others what they do and instead ask what they like to do. It usually provides a much more entertaining answer. Although I wouldn’t mind borrowing your response! 😉
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Oh, people are worse when you say that you are unemployed. (I don’t know it they think they are going to catch it, or something),I love your reply to them….classic! 🙂
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Awesome post!
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Hey, congrats on making the list!
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Thanks so much. I was really thrilled. 🙂
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Just going to check it out
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Thanks so much for choosing my blog for one of your ‘Picks Of The Week’ I am so pleased you liked it. I have checked out some of the other blogs and i am in great company. Thanks again. 🙂
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Hello, and thanks for stopping by. I am Judy, in my (very) early fifties and decided that life definitely gets more interesting as it goes on! I am a wife and a mum and have just finished University as a Registered Nurse, after having worked as an Associate Practitioner in the NHS. I am also a poet and the author of my debut book, 'Rhymes of the Times.' I love to laugh, and I love rhyming words too, so I joined the two together, and my book was born. I am currently working on another book in the series also. I am a prolific blogger and enjoy writing funny stories, anecdotes, and anything really that takes my fancy.
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