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Letter to Self At the Start of my Nursing Degree — March 12, 2018

Letter to Self At the Start of my Nursing Degree

Just under a year ago I was getting excited preparing myself for embarking on my nursing degree.  This morning I had to go to Uni to discuss the past year with my tutor and get bits and pieces for the first year signed off. She gave me a letter that I had written to myself at the very start of the course. We were all asked to write them to see how our journey progresses, particularly in our first year.

Here is what I wrote, complete with typos!

Well, I am still going, and I have had a lot of support from my friends, especially those in my nursing and blogging community. I am starting to get very excited now about starting year 2 in just over a month. Sadly a few of the younger students have left the course for one reason or another but they have all gone on to do other things that suit them better. I wonder what challenges will be facing us this year?….

Strategies I Use For Coping With Anxiety and Depression — October 20, 2017

Strategies I Use For Coping With Anxiety and Depression

Those of you that suffer from anxiety and depression know how difficult it can be to come through the other side. I know that when I went through a particularly bad phase, it was as much as I could do to get out of bed, let alone function. This poem will give you an idea of what I felt like.

 

You wake up but still feel so tired as if you’ve had no sleep at all.

Your thoughts all muddled and fuzzy you want to curl up in a ball.

Your head feels so constricted like someone is squashing your brain

Your body has lost all momentum and your soul is crying in pain

Yet, there’s no logical reason why you want to just be on your own

To lock yourself up with your sorrow and be in that zombie like zone

You are unable to communicate though God knows, you have tried

Your inner most thoughts want to break free but your mind keeps them locked up inside. 

It can be debilitating to yourself and affects all aspects of your life. Your family, friends and work colleagues try to be understanding and patient, but it ‘s hard for them, especially if you don’t want to communicate with anyone and shut them out.

Here are some of the strategies I have learned to help me cope with anxiety and depression.

The most important thing is to recognise when things are starting to become challenging and tell someone about it.  I know when everything is starting to get on top of me, and I am struggling to cope, so it is at that point I make an appointment to see my doctor to try to get some help as soon as possible.

Be open and honest. I know it can be difficult for some people, as mental health issues are often brushed aside or stigmatised. It is that feeling that you won’t be believed because there are no visible signs, or worse, be told to ‘pull yourself together and snap out of it!’ If only we could.

Don’t beat yourself up about it. Another tricky one, because when I am feeling depressed, I go back over everything; conversations I have had, situations I have been in and berate myself for something that I have said or done which has made me look/feel stupid or might have offended someone. It is very often not the case at all, but when you feel useless or helpless in yourself, you feel that everyone else thinks that you are too.

Try and get out into the fresh air. When I am feeling particularly bad, I just want to shut myself indoors and hide away in my little cocoon of security. The problem with this is, it is tough to get out of this rut, and in a way, it makes you feel worse. You become wrapped up in yourself, sometimes not bothering to get dressed, or having a wash. It just adds to the general feeling of worthlessness and self-disgust.

Write or  start a blog. Now I know this might seem ridiculous if you don’t feel like doing much, especially if you have cut yourself off socially from everyone, but I found that this was the best way to help me get through. In fact, it was the very reason I started my blog. I found that by trying to see the funny side of things and making others laugh kind of made me feel valued in some way. Also, I made friends but did not have to physically meet up with them and therefore wasn’t shy or embarrassed. There were no awkward silences, and I could reply to messages or comments when I felt ready to do so.

Of course, it took some time to build up my blog, but I never thought anyone would read it in the first place, it was just for me to express myself in the best way I could. In the end, I met some of these wonderful bloggers sometime later at the Bloggers Bash in 2016. By then, I was much better and ready to socialize in person!

Take any help that you are offered. In the past, I have been to counselling and also have had some Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) Sessions which I have found helped me enormously. Yes, it was sometimes hard to physically get myself out of the house to attend these appointments, but occasionally I asked my husband to take me. I was always glad that I went as it helped me understand why I felt the way that I did, plus I was given tips to try to help myself.

Aim to achieve a little more each day. It may sound obvious, but doing things in bite-sized easy to manage chunks is so much better than hurtling headlong into forcing yourself to complete tasks then feeling resentful and burned out when you are unable to cope with the self-enforced pressure. For example one day I would get up, have a bath and hair wash, the next I might do some washing up or walk to the shop as well,

Don’t Rush it. As I mentioned above, it is much better to make sure you are feeling well before you try jumping back into everything in full-on mode. I once made the mistake of returning to work too early as I was worried about taking time off, but I was not quite ready, and it didn’t do me any favours. It was extra stressful as I was trying to appear my ‘usual’ self when apparently, it was obvious to others that I wasn’t myself at all.

There are no hard and fast rules of course, as we all cope with things in different ways. I have found that these strategies were crucial in helping me cope with anxiety and depression.

Let me know in the comments if you have any other ways of coping .

I have found this useful website (Mental Health. Org. UK) that offers a booklet that can be downloaded with tips to help overcome anxiety and depression. Please click the link here if you would like more information.

 

Free For All Friday — January 29, 2016

Free For All Friday

Free for all Friday

Well, here we are with another week having whizzed past and the end of January approaching at breakneck speed!

I have had quite a busy week, all in all, but have still found some great posts to share with you. As always, please go and visit these blogs if you haven’t already, and have a good old rummage around!

Kyrosmagica Marje had me in stitches with this post. I am sure you will love it too.

Ronovan Writes This was a very helpful and informative post. Ronovan shares some hints and tips with us on good writing. He is a real fountain of knowledge and a great help and support to other writers and bloggers as well. He also manages to find time to host his ‘Flash Fiction Fridays’ and also his ‘Weekly Haiku Prompt’ which is personally one of my favourite challenges!

Terri Webster Schrandt Some more useful tips for bloggers struggling to find inspiration.

So there you have my short and sweet nibbles for this week. Enjoy!

Happy Friday!

 

 

#Free-For-All Friday #27 — September 4, 2015

#Free-For-All Friday #27

It’s Friday already and have I got some treats lined up for you this week! There is some very good blogging advice, brilliant short stories, tips for writers, as well as a heart-wrenching post that I hope will make you think.

All of these bloggers are extremely talented and have lots more on their blogs to offer, so please go for a visit and have a poke around, I am sure they won’t mind!

Yadadarcyyada I like the take on blogging here. Some very good tips and advice written in a very light-hearted and entertaining style.

SachaBlack Poor old Sacha is just itching to get her hands on her manuscript! Find out why she can’t yet, and what she is doing to distract herself.

How the Cookie Crumbles. Tess is back, and not only that she has written another one of her brilliant short stories. She has been missed.

Silver Threading Colleen has been doing a bit of housekeeping, and she passes on some advice here. I am thrilled to see that she has mentioned two other blogs which I also read, that also gave wonderful advice.

Belinda Crane I have not been following this blog for very long, but I am so glad I found her (Thanks Hugh). This is a great story with an unexpected twist.

A Mommas View If you have not read this post yet, please do. That is all I want to say about this for now.

So I have a veritable feast for you this week which should keep you going for a while. Enjoy!

Happy Friday!

Friday Free-for-All: #15 — June 19, 2015

Friday Free-for-All: #15

It’s Friday already, and time to share some more wonderful posts that have caught my eye over the last week. By the way, If anyone else wants to share something that they have particularly enjoyed, then by all means leave a link and we can go to check it out. This week I have some great thoughts on different topics for you to ponder over.

Lilypupslife This blog is written by Lily who is living and coping with Bipolar. This post I  thought really interesting as it is good to know what others think about things.

Reflections. This is another great post giving advice. I use this programme myself (not to its fullest potential as I do not understand it completely yet, but another read of this post should sort me out)!

Tales From The Family Crypt This is when truth really is stranger than fiction – but is it ‘too good to be true’

A Prompt Reply. There has been a challenge going around which has provoked some wonderful posts. I really liked this one as I have had first-hand experience of the effects!

Aimer Boyz This is a blog that I have recently started following, I really like. We definitely have a similar sense of humour!

So there you have your little weekly treat. Enjoy and have a very happy Friday!

The Daydreamer Challenge: Day 4: Blogging Tips — April 9, 2015

The Daydreamer Challenge: Day 4: Blogging Tips

Caitlin has set us quite a tricky challenge for today in the Daydreamer’s Challenge.We are to give any blogging tips that we have learned that has either made us want to follow another blogger, or has helped us to gain followers. I am still reasonably new to blogging, and am really rubbish at the technical side of things but here are my thoughts based on my personal experience and opinions.

  • Always take time to reply to comments. I know this is obvious, but if someone has taken the trouble to comment on something that you have written that strikes a chord with them, then they deserve the courtesy of a reply. Similarly, if you read something on someone’s blog that you can relate to in some way, then try and leave a comment for them. We all like to know that someone is reading what we write, and getting comments is a wonderful way to interact with each other.
  • Enrol on a ‘Blogging 101’ course or the writing or photography course, whichever one appeals to you, This really helped me to learn some of the basics even though I had already been blogging for a few months. You get to meet lots of other bloggers and can share tips and get feedback so it is a really worthwhile thing to do.
  • Read lots of other blogs! Don’t just stick to one genre. I follow all sorts of blogs, and have learned a lot from them as well as met some interesting people.
  • For me, when I am writing a post, I just write what I am thinking. I do not aim my posts at anyone in particular (this might not apply to you if you have a niche type blog) as I feel that if I am trying to impress someone then the post will look contrived and therefore defeat the object! My posts are, I’m afraid, the product of a disorganised mind!
  • Have fun! Join in with blogging parties and meet and greets. There are lots of lovely bloggers that host these and they are a great way to promote your own blog as well as find new ones to follow.

I hope some of these tips are helpful. Of course I am by no means an authority on blogging, but have told you what I have learned from my experience.

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