Don’t you just hate it when you are feeling a bit grotty, so make an extra special effort to try to disguise it, only to have someone come up to you and say with concern,
“Are you aright? You look ghastly!” Well thanks very much, that is just what I wanted to hear. Some people just don’t think; either that or they missed the boat when tact and diplomacy were given out!
Mr Grump has been known to have opened his mouth before engaging his brain, and has been on the end of a verbal volley from me. His crime? He dared to mention that I had a HUGE spot on my face; I was only too aware of it already, and had attempted to hide it with copious amounts of makeup. I know it still shone through like a Belisha Beacon, but he didn’t have to mention it!
Another really big no-no happened as I was walking along the corridor at work. One of the night nurses, smiled at me and asked me if I was pregnant! I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. In the end I settled for taking offence, and told her that no, i was just fat!. I would have thought that she could have done a bit of subtle digging first rather than just coming out with it!
I know it’s nice that people notice things, and yes, we all like to be complimented on a new haircut, or the fact that we have lost weight; but on the flip side, most of us are a little sensitive to have our flaws pointed out, even if there was no intention to embarrass.
I know some people just speak without thinking; my poor boss suffers with this affliction. When one of the carers was brushing a patient’s hair, she asked them to have a go at the nurse’s hair that was working with her, as it looked like a bird’s nest. Ouch!
What type of person are you? A blabbermouth, or the soul of discretion?
I can be either one of them on occasions. XD
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Yes me too! I am guilty of putting my foot in it on more than a few occasions!
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I changed my approach to that in the clinic. Instead of saying, “You look awful!” I now say, “You don’t look like you feel very good.” Changes the focus from what is wrong with their appearance to what is making them feel so bad. Makes a huge difference.
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Yes, the way something is said is the difference between being concerned and being downright ride!
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I actually meant rude!
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I think that everyone probably forgets to use their ‘filter’ from time to time. I usually try to be sensitive with my comments.
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I know my own filter is broken at times as well 🙂
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I try to be the soul of discretion, but sometimes my inner Jerry Lewis kicks in and I step in it big time.
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Ha Ha ! Love it, You and me both 🙂
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I knew I liked you!
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I am the soul of discretion.
Unless you are family. Then it’s game on!
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Oooh, you like to live dangerously then!
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I was at a function last week and someone asked me how I was. I said I was great. They said ‘Really??’ with a concerned tone.
I said really.
He said ‘ are you sure??’
wow, I must have looked tired or something but I was so miffed I said…
I have lost weight on purpose….I don’t have cancer……jeez…..
that shut him up.
I am the sole of discretion (but then I am Canadian and we try hard never to offend 😉 )
except with that guy cause he just pissed me right off.
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It makes you paranoid when someone keeps on like that.Yes you Canadians are like us English, don’t like to offend, but when it is absolutely necessary, we make a bloody good job of it.
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Hello, and thanks for stopping by. I am Judy, in my (very) early fifties and decided that life definitely gets more interesting as it goes on! I am a wife and a mum and have just finished University as a Registered Nurse, after having worked as an Associate Practitioner in the NHS. I am also a poet and the author of my debut book, 'Rhymes of the Times.' I love to laugh, and I love rhyming words too, so I joined the two together, and my book was born. I am currently working on another book in the series also. I am a prolific blogger and enjoy writing funny stories, anecdotes, and anything really that takes my fancy.
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