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Food, Glorious Food! #BeWoW Post. — October 7, 2015

Food, Glorious Food! #BeWoW Post.

I have always had rather a passionate love affair with food, It is, after all, vital for our very survival. For some, though it is just fuel in order to keep the body functioning properly, and not something they particularly think much about. They eat when they need to, and ensure that they consume the right balance of nutrients to keep them within a healthy weight range.

For me, though, food is so much more than that, it is an experience. I love to savour and enjoy; it is a pleasure to be shared with others, whether it be around a huge table, or sitting on a towel at the beach! Give me a buffet and I am in my element; Eying up the selection of foods laid out, enticing me with their irresistible looks, and inviting me to devour them.

Even more than this is my desire to attend a ‘Medieval Banquet.’ Get out of the way Henry, that ham is mine! Just the thought of the succulent meats, tender vegetables, and plump juicy fruits not to mention all of the other goodies that would be on offer, is enough to send me into frenzy!!

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Food is also linked to events, dates or occasions. For me Bonfire Nights as a child were wrapping up warmly against the chilly November night, watching the fireworks, and then eating something warm and hearty, such as a stew and jacket potatoes with chunks of bread. Christmas dinners, of course, with the traditional roast turkey, stuffing, pigs in blankets, sprouts (the only time I eat them), roast potatoes, and all the other trimmings. Once that was eaten, it was either a brisk walk or a slump on the sofa for a nap!

One more food I have to give a mention to is bacon. Just the smell it cooking, can rouse the laziest teenager from their bed to breakfast in record time! For me, it is caravanning holidays with my family. We always had cooked breakfast when we were on holiday, and the ‘full English’ was the perfect start to set us up for the day.

But, my love of food has cost me dearly. Well, actually, truth be told, not my love of food, more so my greed with food. As I got older, and life became a little tougher, I sought out my loyal and faithful love. It was always there for me and made me feel better. It gave me comfort and, for a while, respite. Unfortunately, it also gave me Type 2 diabetes.

My over-indulgence was to blame, I did not heed the danger signs, the weight continued to pile on and I did nothing to counteract it. I used food too much for comfort, paying no heed to the negative effect it was having on me.

However, this is a positive post. I can still have a good relationship with food, but not so much of an obsessive one. I can still eat the foods I enjoy, just in smaller quantities and not as often! The best thing though is that food can still be a pleasurable experience to be shared with others, and as long as I rein in my urges to eat everything in sight, I might even get to that banquet!

Those people who I did not understand who ‘ate to live’ rather than my philosophy of ‘living to eat’ had got it mostly right. However, I do believe that there should be no shame in enjoying food; I can still feel the comfort and warmth that food gives me, but I can eat sensibly so that my body can feel the benefits of it too!

This post was part of BeWoW 

Episode 473: #BeWoW Post. Fantastic Friends. — August 26, 2015

Episode 473: #BeWoW Post. Fantastic Friends.

You may remember that I wrote a post recently about my hideous experience at the Health and Well-Being Appointment that I attended. (If you missed it you can find it here).

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I have been overwhelmed at the response I got from my wonderful blogging friends since this post was published. I have had so many messages of support and encouragement that have really touched me deeply.

I just wanted to let you know that you are all brilliant, and I realise that I have many more friends than I realised.

Thank you

Episode 409: #BeWoW Post: Community. — July 8, 2015

Episode 409: #BeWoW Post: Community.

I have noticed that there have not been any BeWoW prompts for a little while now. I like doing these posts as it is great to focus on something positive. Just writing a post focusing on the positive can lift the mood, as does reading them. So I have decided that today I am going to talk about something that makes me happy which is out very own blogging community.

For me, this has been one of the best things of all about blogging, The wonderful people that I have been able to interact with, some on a daily basis. There are still a few people that I have ‘met’ right at the beginning who I am still in regular contact with. It is fascinating to see how our respective blogs have changed and grown over that time, yet we still have that strong connection with each other.

I am privileged to have met so many people through WordPress that have taught me so much as well. I have some lovely new author friends, and have read a couple of books that I may not have been aware of if it wasn’t for my blog! I have got a few lined up as well to keep me going for a while.

I have been introduced to the haiku as well. There is a fantastic community that participate in the weekly challenge, and everyone is supportive, and kind. I love to see how everyone else interprets the prompt words each week, as much as I love to have a go at it myself!

There  are poets, musicians, writers, story-tellers, people who are so creative and crafty, wonderful cooks and chefs, farmers, people who deal with mental illness sharing their triumphs and troubles, teachers. It’s like having a living encyclopaedia; if I want to know about something, I am pretty sure one of my blogging friends would have the answer!

I love the fact that due to the various time differences, there is always someone online, new posts to read, people to interact with, who offer support and encouragement! It is somewhere where someone like me, who is pretty awkward in social situations, feels like they belong and are accepted despite being a bit of a klutz!

Episode 378: #BeWoW Post: Dealing With Regrets. — June 17, 2015

Episode 378: #BeWoW Post: Dealing With Regrets.

For Ronovan’s BeWoW post this week, he has suggested the rather thought-provoking topic of regrets, and how we deal with them.

Well, God knows where to start with this one, as I have spent the larger part of my life fretting over things I have done, mistakes that I have made and how I have regretted my actions. In fact, it wasn’t until last year, when I had been going to Counselling for a while that I even realised quite how bad it had become.

I have always been a people pleaser and hate it when I think I have upset or offended someone. It reached quite a crescendo last year when I was having trouble sleeping at night. I would be re-running conversations in my head that I had been involved in during the day, then would criticize myself for the stupid or cringeworthy things I had said, thus making me stay awake fretting about how people must think I am stupid.

I would also look back over my life and wish that I had done something differently; too many marriages, too much drinking (when I was younger), not watching my weight (or rather, watching it get heavier and heavier), smoking (I gave up after 30 years last October) and really not bothering in school (I hated it, so did not study properly).

However, as far as regrets over my lifestyle choices went, I have tried to put right the wrongs of the past, and hope that my body is forgiving. Educationally, I did go back to it and gain a few more qualifications that I am proud to have achieved. The marriages, well, I went into all of them willingly, and thought each one was going to last forever, but life had its own agenda for me! I did have my gorgeous daughter with my 2nd husband so how can that ever be something that I regret?!

Lastly, the incessant late night berating sessions, these have got much less now. My counsellor explained that I should stop living in the past (regurgitating conversations etc), as that was finished and cannot be changed, and to start living in the present. I had never really thought of it like that before, but that is so true.

I do still get mad at myself when I have been a prat and said something silly, but I try to convince myself to get over it, and move on!

Episode 367: #BeWoW Post. I am OK With Me! — June 10, 2015

Episode 367: #BeWoW Post. I am OK With Me!

For our BeWoW post this week, Ronovan has suggested that we could write about being ok with ourselves.

This last year in particular, I have not been ok with myself at all. I have been knocked sideways with depression a couple of times, which meant time off work,frustration and anger at myself for not being able to cope, and lots of time spent wrapping myself up in a cocoon, shying away from being with others.

However, I have managed to break free of it (with the help of my doctor) in the last month and am feeling so much better. I am very lucky that I have such a great bunch of colleagues and an understanding boss, so going back to work was not as difficult as it could have been.

Work has been going really well, and there are a couple of exciting things on the horizon for me hopefully. This is particularly good news, as at one time, I was in a position where I didn’t know if I was ever going to get back to work, whether or not I even wanted to, or if I might lose my job anyway due to the time off. I realise how much I do love my job and that I am even quite good at it!

The fact that I have the daughter I always wanted, and a loving husband that knows me so well, and is so supportive makes life so much easier, as does having such a large family who I can rely on when I need to. This all contributes to making me feel more ok with myself as I know that I am loved, despite feeling to the contrary when I am in that awful slump.

I realise that there are still parts of me that I am not ok with, but that is the physical me, the outside which I am working on. The inner me is not that bad after all and I am finally OK with that!

Episode 358: #BeWow Post: My Favourite Positive Quote. — June 3, 2015

Episode 358: #BeWow Post: My Favourite Positive Quote.

For our BeWow posts this week, Rovonan has suggested we might like to share our favourite quotes on positivity. I love this one:

‘Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.’ Albert Einstein.

To me, this quote speaks volumes. When I was growing up I was not only extremely shy, but also painfully clumsy and awkward. This made for a terribly unfortunate combination, and I know many thought I was stupid. Being shy meant that I did not want to engage much in conversation (even now I am rubbish at small talk), so that gave the impression that I had nothing worth contributing. Added to that, when I did try to join in, I would either stumble over my words or say the wrong thing as I rarely think before I speak (I still do that, and only today had to amend a comment that I realised straight away I had got completely wrong)!

Throw the clumsiness into the mix, and you really have a walking disaster! I have been on the receiving end of many a strange look as I have plucked up the courage, launched myself into a room, only to go flying over something. As a teenager I took part in a German student exchange trip with my school. On my first morning in Germany as I went to go outside onto the balcony for breakfast, I walked smack bang into the glass doors and nearly knocked myself out!

However, this fish can swim, and I found that as I got older and became less shy, I also became more determined to prove that I am not completely stupid (ok so I am no way a genius either), and can do things with competently. (However I know that if I had to take blood from any of my family, they would run a mile at the sight of me coming at them with a needle, my patients though, do not have that luxury)!

The point is, we are all good at something. Just because we might not be dexterous or academic, does not mean that we are idiots, or stupid, and that is why I love this quote, as it highlights the fact that not only should we not judge others on things we consider they should be good at, but also the fact that if we do, it can have a devastating effect on them that can last a lifetime.

Episode 346: #BeWoW – How I Keep Positive. — May 26, 2015

Episode 346: #BeWoW – How I Keep Positive.

This is  my BeWoW post  as inspired  by Ronovan

Keeping positive is something that I am constantly striving to achieve, seeing as I have always tended to look on the negative side of things!

I think as I have got older I have become much more determined, and actually that does help me to focus on the positive, or at least to have a little more self-belief. Workwise, I still have ambition, and want to try to move up another rung on the ladder,and being negative and doubting my ability will not help me get to where I want to be.

Suffering with depression as well, it can very often be difficult to keep positive, as I get times when I feel pretty useless, and rubbish at everything. This drags me down until I turn inwards, and just want to stay in and see nobody (except my husband and daughter). I realise that it is not healthy and am trying to combat this.

Enough of the doom and gloom now, and back to being positive. I think sometimes just reflecting on the things that I have in my life, that I am so thankful for helps too. For example, I have a beautiful daughter, wonderful husband and family as well as a job that I enjoy.

The warmer weather always improves my mood as well. Seeing the sunshine seems to lift my spirits and I realise that there is lots to look forward to; family BBQs, days at the beach, swimming in the sea. all the little pleasures that make life so enjoyable. These are all positive events.

I am also blessed that I have wonderful friends, work colleagues and of course, the blogging community. Interaction with other people for me is very important. Despite my being reclusive at times, I still like to interact with others, and being able to do so online is great for me when I am in hermit mode!

So staying positive is, for me, all about being grateful for what I have, having goals and achieving them, and being surrounded by wonderful and supportive family and friends.

Episode 327: #BeWoW Day: Ordinary or Extraordinary? — May 13, 2015

Episode 327: #BeWoW Day: Ordinary or Extraordinary?

This is my take on what ‘ordinary’ and ‘extraordinary’ means to me in response to Ronovan Writes BeWow post.

I would describe myself as just an ordinary, everyday type of woman. There is nothing remarkable about me; I am average looking, a little on the plump side (ok, a lot), have now reached the point of being ‘middle-aged,’ and have a husband and daughter. I am a quiet unassuming type of person, very introverted at times. Very ordinary!

Wait a minute though…didn’t I join the army as soon as I was able, therefore leaving home and standing on my own two feet as soon as I was 18? What about the fact that I went off to Turkey to marry my first husband, against everyone’s wishes, and had to rope a bemused passer-by in to be one of my witnesses?(I did have a friend that came with me to be the other witness)!

What about the fact that I am now on husband number three? It took me a while to get things right). Lastly, how many other people take 6 attempts before they pass their driving test? (Yes 6)!

In answer to all of those questions, I think that I might actually just qualify as being a little extraordinary! I suppose it just depends on what your definition is. Despite my quietness, I am a pretty determined type of person, and once I get my heart set on something, then I will do my utmost to try to accomplish it. That makes me just an ordinary person with extraordinary tendencies!

Episode 316: The Unity of Humanity – #BeWoW:Humour — May 6, 2015

Episode 316: The Unity of Humanity – #BeWoW:Humour

For my ‘Be Wonderful on Wednesday’ post on The Unity of Humanity, I have chosen to focus on humour,

No matter what race. gender, colour, creed or sexual orientation we are, everyone likes to laugh, it is universal. You only have to look at young children playing together, from even the most disadvantaged backgrounds, to see that they still manage to find something to laugh about.

Most of us have a sense of humour; even the most dour amongst us will find something that makes them laugh (particularly if it is at someone else’s expense)! I know I am pretty bad at laughing at the wrong times as well. Mr Grump once hit his head on the shelf above the radiator when he was taking some dry washing off of it. He clutched his head and went to the floor in a dramatic movement, making a hell of a fuss, Meanwhile I was helpless with laughter, doubled over. It was my mum also clucking round him that made me worse! (He was ok, by the way, a little scratch and a bit of a bump, but ok).

I feel that humour has a way of uniting people. If we look at some of the comedians like Eddie Murphy for example. He has been in many funny films that people have enjoyed and even his voice as ‘Donkey’ in Shrek, makes me laugh. I roared my head off at the movie ‘East is East’ which was mainly about the trials of an Indian family growing up in England in the 1970s.

I absolutely love Stephen Fry; I think he is one of the most intelligent and witty people alive, he also happens to be gay, as does Graham Norton, Ellen de Generes and a host of other comedians. No-one has the monopoly on being funny and being able to make others laugh, just the same as you don’t have to belong to a particular group to be able to laugh.

Another one of my favourite comedians is Omid Djalili, although born in England, his parents are Iranian, I love his humour as he takes the mickey out of himself, and everyone else as well, he just doesn’t care. An interesting fact that I discovered whilst researching his origins, is that he belongs to a faith  called Baha’i. which is a religion which endorses the unity of humankind, to me, that says it all.

Unity in love, respect, tolerance, and of course humour  would make the world such a better place.

Episode 309: What Family Is To Me — April 29, 2015

Episode 309: What Family Is To Me

This post is inspired by Ronovanswrtites  BeWoW.

I come from quite a large family, having three older brothers and two sisters, one older and one younger; that makes me number five of six children, It’s quite funny how things worked out as my eldest brother and sister were born on the same day exactly a year apart, and myself and my younger sister were also born on the same day as each other but I am two years older.

Growing up, there was always someone around so there was not a lot of peace and quiet, nor was there any chance of being lonely. Of course sharing a birthday with my sister was quite nice as well. When we were younger we always got dressed the same and I think were treated as almost one entity of ‘the two girls.’ Mind you, for ages we fought like hell, pinching and scratching as well as pulling each other’s hair!

Now we all have children of our own, I remember how proud I was when I first became an aunty at 15. I now have a total of 10 nephews and nieces, two of those are also married. I also have my own daughter and was the last one out of the six to have children. Luckily I got in a fair bit of practice having all those nephews and nieces!

I think for me family is definitely about learning to share, but also keeping your wits about you. In our house if you weren’t looking, someone would nick a roast potato off your plate! However, there was always at least one person to play Monopoly or Mousetrap with (even if a fight did normally ensue)!

Family teaches you about relationships as well which applies to all sorts of other situations. You get to know your place in the hierarchy, which being fifth and extremely shy was pretty low down to start with! Respect is a large part of family life; I certainly had to respect my elders and of course my parents. When there are so many of you who have different personalities, you have to learn to try to respect each other’s differences.

Most importantly, family is love. Yes, we all have our fallings out, sometimes quite serious ones, but know that we will still be there for each other should anything happen, Forgiveness is also part of being a family. I know sometimes we all might have acted out of turn, but are usually forgiven!

Family is also about laughter. Sharing those hilarious moments with each other; reminiscing about the good times, or the bad; accepting each other, having someone to confide in; it is extremely important to me.

Family is being loved for yourself, and loving others for who they are, despite them driving us bloody crazy at times!

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